#9 — Perfect Love

They kiss each other tenderly. Mouth to mouth. The movie credits start rolling up. What is going to happen next? For some reason that stays behind the scenes all the time. They have gone through fire and water to get to their goal. Love. But how is love continued? Here is the kiss he’s been fighting for throughout the entire movie.

True love is an attempt to grow something meaningful on the fertile soil of your broken heart.

What is next? What is going to happen tomorrow? After the credits. Will he invite her for a coffee, theatre? Maybe for a musical to go together with? Oh, year! The next is… Hm.

Maybe it’s just simple. Maybe the future is never what they wanted it to be. Why movies teach us one thing, and life teaches the other? Why cynicism fights against romance?

Love has no reason. Can you believe that two of those reasons crossed their path at one point? No! The probability is slim. I would say it’s 1 in 7 billion. How many people there are on the planet?

As a result, we turn into cynical individuals and chose a partner if it was a cell phone in a store. It seems logical enough that the two can’t love each other when the love is gone. Only one remains to love. Here is how I see it.

Chart: Happiness over time for Person #1 and Person #2

Description of the chart: 0 to 6 months: they fall in love. Their love amplifies with every single day | 6 o 10 months: their love is coasting, remains the same | 10 to … months: extinction of love

It’s important to note that the extinction of love happens only for one. The other one remains relatively stable. Remains in disbelief that the love has gone south already. Nonetheless, it’s dying out too. Yet, slowly and painfully.

Rule #9: “Perfect love is when one loves, another one loves of convenience.” ¹,²

  1. Originally created and published in Feb 2010 ↩︎
  2. You might think that I don’t believe in love. On contrary, I do. It’s just nowadays the love that doesn’t require anyone to be codependent is rather an exception, an outcast. Please keep in mind that there is a chance the graph can go up again. And both people will start experiencing love and affection again. However, considering the inability of modern people to put something into their relationship the above-mention remains in the area of unicorns and fairy tails. ↩︎
  3. For more visit “The Rules” project on https://antonvin.com/blog

I observe the world around me, note imperfections, and strive to fix them. Or at least I try. The original author of "The Rules," started in 2010 in Russia.